Being a Four Cancer Couple

Every so often I get an update from Myeloma UK about their most recent news and struggles with NICE to get treatments approved and funded for use. Revlimid coming off patent made treatments more widely available in the UK. People had been buying cheap generics in India. Were we to go back to the UK I might get more involved with the charity because I have read quite a bit about Myeloma. I also have some weird French vocabulary now. In the UK treatment price is important for a nation of shopkeepers. In the USA if you don’t have top end health insurance you are fucked. In France the provision is good and logical. “If it works use it to treat.”

As a couple we have had four (five) cancers between us. I have had two basal cell carcinomas on my face and a stage 3 sigmoid bowel cancer.  The wife has had early stage breast cancer and has multiple myeloma currently in remission. Were we playing cancer top trumps, we have a good hand. We could say that at the moment we are cancer survivors. We are not strangers to the surgical knife. My prostate specific antigen (PSA) level is up a bit again and the wife is due a mammography follow up soon. I am due to see a urologist next week. There is a possibility of a new prostate MRI scan. It is getting a bit harder what with all the metalwork in my hips. I may have a prostate biopsy scheduled which I am looking forward to with glee.

Just like for most boomers cancer is a fact of life.

Saying that you have had four cancers is almost as taboo as mentioning exorcisms…

Cancer is for many a very emotive word. The probability of getting four cancers for two people is not that high. You could say that we have been unlucky. Or you could say, “shit happens, it is your karma.”

One of these might seem less sympathetic and empathic than the other… we all place our bets.

It is easy to feel victimised and “poor me, it is not fair.” But I don’t think that helps at all. A wringing hand never cured a cancer…

If the finger of fate points right up your arse it is best to relax and take the examination like a man…

I guess our experience has given us a slightly different outlook than most…

It has just occurred to me that if they do want to do a prostate biopsy a good time to do it might be when I am unconscious having my second replacement hip fitted. Though there are probably hygiene reasons as to why this is not a good idea…

Guess is they will test PSA again in six months. Dependent on that an MRI / biopsy will be on the blackjack table…

Hmnn

The Waking Dream

On the 7th of July I had a passive nocturnal dream in which an unknown cat cuddled up to my thigh. On the 8th of July a new stray cat appeared through the fence and he has been with us on and off since. I have named him Gandalf because he is grey and white. {Viz Lord of the Rings}

We have posted news of his arrival to various pet lost and found channels.

A while back a woman from a local hamlet knocked on our door asking if we had seen her cat. The local knowledge says that all stray cats end up here. We have had quite a few. The local knowledge is good.

Another uncanny dream prediction has pointed at something unexpected which thematically may be true. I could realistically accidentally bump into the person in question now. It has gone from highly improbable to possible. I will be in the ‘hood tomorrow at a nodal place, a hospital, where people often meet. I will be only 17km away from where they live.

Our local internet and phone provider had an incident around easter and for two months we had no ‘phone signal nor internet. Neither did we have any external appointments, we were cut off from the world, more than usual.

I saw this as a sign to look into our/my connections. We changed internet and ‘phone provider, I reached out to the world via LinkedIn and this blog. It has been very interesting for me who has accepted my invitations and who has visited my profile following on from me visiting theirs. Take up is not good.

Let’s say there has not been a rush to connect with me in public. My leper’s bell seems to be working, though not all hear its dulcet tones.

Maybe the universe, the dream, is telling me to do another disappearing act?

The “connections” theme was perhaps a red herring.

We have one chronic problem that sooner or later needs to be solved. I have osteoarthritis in my hips and lower back. It is there in my cervical spine. I have disc herniation which causes symptoms c5c6 and c7 in my left and right fingers. The nerves are impinged upon.

It is unwise for me to do heavy labour; we have 0.8 hectare of garden.

One solution to the problem is for me to get an income stream of around 500-1000€ a month. I could then pay someone to do the heavy work.

We are on a very tight budget and live well below minimum wage levels of income.

It is not a big ask, a few hundred euros a month, but that would suffice.

The idea of scientific English editing looks to be a no-go. The market is crowded and the price per word low. The work is perhaps drying up due to AI.

The purpose behind the LinkedIn account was to try to get this off the ground.

The alternative is to downsize houses.

It costs roughly 50 grand in fees to move house here. The housing market is severely constipated.

Having an offer made on this house would be a real problem because they are not used to chain sales and they have some quaint customs about signing. There is little we would like to move into, especially at that level of cost.

Move somewhere you don’t like and spend 50 grand….does not sound ideal or appetizing.

I have had numerous dreams pointing at doorways, gates and the deep unknown. So far not a lot has materialised.

We are in the time of year where the crop ripens and heads towards harvest later in summer or early autumn. Whatever it is I have sown, I will reap.

The firewood store is full. I have just power washed the propane tank, if we get it filled, we are good until end of January 2025.

The wife had a breast lump biopsy taken and sent off on Friday. I am due an MRI scan of my prostate tomorrow morning, because my Prostate Specific Antigen {PSA} test was elevated.

If there are any lesions in the prostate I will have a prostate biopsy on my dance card in the near future.

A further episode of medical-merry-go-round might be incoming. This could be bilateral.

The USA is now further destabilized. Adamant hot heads and automatic weapons are not a good mix.

How did an “advanced” country get to a geriatric presidency race?

I could finish my work up of dreams and then repurpose this blog.

I could leave social media.

To try to write another hobby-vanity patent would cost around £500 to get to the stage of grant. I have proved I can do it once; not sure I need to do it again.

There is no real incentive.

Things could change PDQ over the next few weeks or they will stay roughly the same.

We shall see…