In general bullying is when there is some kind of power imbalance. This can be by virtue of physical size, positional power or number of people. Bullying ranges from dropping billions of dollars of state of the art munitions on a defenceless population to simply gossiping about someone behind their back.

Where there is no hope of defence, with a power imbalance, it is bullying.

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Mocking someone en masse is a form of bullying, especially when they have no ability to challenge or redress.

If for example you are employed in a job with positional power, status and money when you interact with a long term unemployed person there is an imbalance of power. They do not belong to the same circles as you. If you wield your power over that person you are bullying. Being long term unemployed gives you a very different outlook on life. You tend to take very little for granted. When you walk in different circles the world looks different.

I myself am pretty powerless these days and have been for a long time. Yet it seems people still want to fight me and argue with me. There is something about me which provokes some weird shit in other people.

People talk about the “war” with Iran initiated by the nuclear powers Israel and USA. It is not a war. They are kicking the shit out of a country much like a bully would do in the hallways at school. But nobody is calling it bullying. They are killing civilian populations. It is not war; it is one-sided brutal punishment. They have called Iran cowardly. It is very easy to be brave in an F35 when you have near total air superiority.

“We have nuclear weapons. You are not allowed to have them…”

If you gang up with the aggressors you are condoning this bullying. The last thing a bully wants is a level playing field. It does not want its bullying pointed out. It may feel thoroughly justified in throwing its weight about and bullying those weaker. The bully feels entitled to slag off and beat up its enemies or anyone who might challenge in some small way. The bully is always disproportionate.

Bullies can be very blind about their bullying behaviours.

I have to be careful because some of my traits can shock. The direct clarity suitable in some situations can seem way over the top to the more normal. Because of past experience, like sitting in a board room at Fleming Family and Partners, I have experienced million dollar level intensity. This has to be watched because should I let loose like that it is a trouser changer for many.

Even though I have no power I could exhibit bullying behaviour because I can handle intensity.

Is it possible for the powerless to bully?

Maybe…

Is being direct bullying?

I don’t know….

I do know that many do not like clarity…they don’t like being real…

Is being a spoilsport bullying?

Is ghosting a form of bullying?

Is disappearing off into the sunset bullying?

I don’t know.

But what I do know is that people will almost inevitably turn on an outsider, a stranger. When I read the famous Camus book {in French} I thought I had better watch out or I could get executed…

If my past life memories are correct it won’t be the first time…

It rarely ends well for the drifter…